Manners in the Frum(Yeshivish) World
Walking into Shul yesterday morning was a bad start to what turned out to be another great day.
Walking behind me was a person maybe my age, most probably a bit younger. As a normal courtesy I held the door for him. It is obviously a difficult thing to say "Thank you" while entering the shul building. As there was no "Thank you" forthcoming I promptly said "You're welcome". Usually that embarrasses the person into saying "Thank you". This guy was made of stronger stuff. He would not be embarrassed. However, he was too Frum to put on his Talis or tefilen in shul. He did it in an anteroom.
When I was leaving Shul a young Yeshiva bochur was arriving for a later minyan. Do you think he would say "Thank you" when I held the door for him? Of course not. The "You're welcome" that I shouted at him did not embarrass him either. He would have ruined his Yeshiva's reputation if he had responded.
What a wonderful world. Why don't parents and schools teach manners. Derech eretz kodmoh latorah.
Walking behind me was a person maybe my age, most probably a bit younger. As a normal courtesy I held the door for him. It is obviously a difficult thing to say "Thank you" while entering the shul building. As there was no "Thank you" forthcoming I promptly said "You're welcome". Usually that embarrasses the person into saying "Thank you". This guy was made of stronger stuff. He would not be embarrassed. However, he was too Frum to put on his Talis or tefilen in shul. He did it in an anteroom.
When I was leaving Shul a young Yeshiva bochur was arriving for a later minyan. Do you think he would say "Thank you" when I held the door for him? Of course not. The "You're welcome" that I shouted at him did not embarrass him either. He would have ruined his Yeshiva's reputation if he had responded.
What a wonderful world. Why don't parents and schools teach manners. Derech eretz kodmoh latorah.
posted by Olderjew at 10:19 PM
2 Comments:
what about being dan lcaf zchus? maybe they were reciting brochos? maybe they said something and you didn't hear? maybe the shook there head at you as a sin of recognition ut you didn't see? maybe they behave just like most other new yorkers, and it minhag hamakom not to respond? maybe it's time you move to boca?
maybe the last Lubavitcher Rebbe was really the Mashiah?
All these maybes are making me nervous. Maybe I'm paranoid...
It's a too common problem in the "frume" world. It's a mitsvah to be nice to your fellow. Scratch that. Derekh erets kadma l'tora. You don't have to be an idiot in order to be dan lekhaf z'khut.
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